Habits those could ruin your life

There are many innocent habits we have those could easily ruin our life. Below are some examples.

  1. Over-thinking– It has to be the number one brain-damaging habit I have ever personally come across. If you have this habit of over analyzing things in detail, think about problems that even don’t exist in the first place, you’re going to take your brain for a bumpy ride.
  2. Procrastination: ‘I will do it tomorrow’, and needless to say, that tomorrow comes after months or years, by which its already too late.
  3. Anger: I have anger issues, always had, and I know how this one particular habit has backfired on me and consumed me the most amongst all. People often think that people who have anger issues are toxic to others. No. Primarily, they are toxic to their own self.
  4. Bad physical habits– Sleeping late, waking up late, bad unhealthy diets, not exercising, I have done it all. The only time I realized how my bad physical routines were having a toll on my mental and emotional health when I drastically changed all my earlier habits with new healthy ones.
  5. Social media addiction: I never realized when I became obsessed with social media. Thousands of followers, comments, likes, messages, praise, appreciation on virtual world took me away from the real world. As soon as I realized this, I took a break. That is why I am very less active on Quora these days.
  6. Bottling up emotions: This is not what I do now, but this is something I used to do when I was suffering through depression. This could be very harmful for one’s mental health. All we need is one person who can just listen and support us unconditionally during it, and all will fall in place.
  7. Comparison with others: So and so is having such a nice job, so and so got married, so and so shifted to US, so and so are on a holiday, so and so got a promotion, so and so looks much better. STOP. Looking at what others are doing/achieving in their life will do nothing good in yours. At most, it will make you feel like you’re at the bottom of the game.
  8. Clinging on to past: Lived five years in it, the worst mistake I have ever made. Wasted some of my most precious years, and undoubtedly abused my mind thoroughly. Live in the present. Not past.
  9. Not forgiving others by understanding their situations: We all have held on to hatred, pain, anger, resentment or any such emotions for people around us, hence blocking the energy of empathy and understanding others and their situations. But these negative feelings that we hold in our own hearts affect us the most internally. For this, all you need to do is once understand their situation, their reasons, and try to let go of any pain you have caused in yourself because of their actions.
  10. Not forgiving yourself: Most of all, I have realized it is the guilt and regret we keep in hearts towards the mistakes we committed in life eats up more than anything else. We harass our mind repeatedly for messing one thing or the other, blame ourselves often, and sometimes even hate ourselves. Relax. We are all humans, and we will wrong ourselves in this journey called life. No one is an expert here. No one has it all. Yes, you committed a mistake. Maybe you messed up and examination or a relationship or your health. Blaming yourself again and again will not solve that issue. Forgive yourself and restart with the lessons you’ve learned.

Author: Aditya Bhuyan

I am an IT Professional with close to two decades of experience. I mostly work in open source application development and cloud technologies. I have expertise in Java, Spring and Cloud Foundry.

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