10 Commandments for Self Help

Self improvement is the study and practice of improving one’s life, especially our career, education, relationships, health, happiness, productivity, spirituality, and other personal goals.

Common aspects of self improvement include goal setting, motivation, changing habits, improving awareness, identifying one’s values and beliefs, and self-actualization.

Self improvement has a rich history that includes influences from Ancient Greek philosophy, Eastern and Western religions, Existentialism, Psychoanalysis, Hypnotherapy, Gestalt Therapy, and Humanistic Psychology.

Today many concepts and theories in self improvement have begun to be tested scientifically in domains of Clinical Psychology (especially therapies like Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy), as well as research in Positive Psychology, Cognitive Psychology, Social Psychology, and Neuroscience.

Self improvement has never been more alive than it is today. Ever since humans first became conscious they have been in pursuit of happiness, success, and satisfaction. And throughout our written history we have learned a lot about different ways we can improve our lives.

Now equipped with the science of modern psychology and neuroscience, humans have more resources and information available than ever before to learn how to live a better and more happy life.

But even with all this great information, many are probably confused on where they should get started. That is a big reason why this website exists. I want to filter out the ideas that are no longer relevant and highlight the ones that have persisted and proven to be effective. Here are the most common theories in self improvement to help get you started:

The 10 Commandments of Self Improvement

  • You are responsible for how you live your life. People who are on the self improvement path understand that their thoughts and actions play a big role in what they get out of life. Without taking at least some degree of responsibility over your life, self improvement is nearly impossible.
  • You need to define what you want before you can achieve it. Many people go through life aimlessly, without a clear destination in mind. Ultimately, however, we need to identify our goals, values, and priorities in life before we can achieve them. We shouldn’t just work hard, but work hard on the things that matter most to us.
  • Short-term costs can lead to long-term benefits. Actively trying to change one’s life is not a walk in the park; it often requires effort, time, pain, and discomfort. There are no magic pills or blueprints for you to follow. You need to be willing to invest in yourself, which often requires paying short-term costs that will eventually lead to long-term benefits in the future.
  • You are always changing. The truth is that whether we play an active role in our self improvement or not, we are always changing and developing as individuals. We are all on some kind of self improvement path, but some take more control over their future than others. You are not a static being, you are dynamic and always changing.
  • Your thoughts matter. We sometimes think of our thoughts as immaterial and inconsequential, but that couldn’t be further from the truth. How you think strongly influences how you act and respond to the world around you. And how you act will determine the results and outcomes you get out of life. Your thoughts and beliefs are important and play a big influence in how your life will turn out.
  • Your habits matter. Just as we should focus on changing our thoughts, we should also focus on exploring new habits. As the saying goes, “If you keep doing what you’ve always done, you’ll keep getting what you’ve always got.” Sometimes we won’t know what the correct course of action is until we have experimented with different things. Changing habits is essential for learning more about yourself and continuing to grow as a person.
  • Your body matters. One of the most important aspects of self improvement is taking care of your body and health. Our physical health and mental health are often interconnected. So to truly be your best self, you should try your best to eat right, exercise, and take care of your long-term health. Without taking care of your body, you won’t be able to achieve your maximum potential.
  • The present moment is your place of power. Every conscious decision we make and every action we do unfolds in the present moment. The more attuned you are to the present and the choices you have in any given situation, the greater control you have over your day-to-day actions. Yesterday is over. Tomorrow is yet to come. But today is where you have the power to act and decide.
  • Learn from the past. While we can’t change our past, it can still be a valuable resource to look back on and learn from, whether it’s our past mistakes or past successes. Being able to reflect on your past and learn ways to improve yourself in the future is essential to self-growth and self-improvement.
  • Be optimistic about the future. We don’t always know what the future may bring, but if we remain optimistic and hopeful we allow ourselves to act in ways that help create that fact. Often times, it can become a kind of self-fulfilling prophecy. You have to believe in the future before you can start building it.

This is a simple breakdown of the core principles you’ll learn about on your self improvement journey. I call them the “10 Commandments of Self Improvement.”

If you’re completely new to self improvement, keep these ideas in mind for now, and over time you will learn about them in greater depth (especially if you follow this website).

Self improvement is not something that can be learned and absorbed over night. In my mind, it is a never-ending process. Our lives are always changing, and thus there are always new and better ways for us to think and act. There is always progress to be made if we are open to it.

Source : Self Help


Author: Aditya Bhuyan

I am an IT Professional with close to two decades of experience. I mostly work in open source application development and cloud technologies. I have expertise in Java, Spring and Cloud Foundry.

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